Hello Darling,
“I don't need a man to rectify my existence. The most profound
relationship we'll ever have is the one with ourselves.”
- Shirley MacLaine
The idea that one needs a man in order to be happy is a thought
process that affected me in the past. Luckily, I was able to change my mindset which
had a tremendous impact on my life. It’s a great feeling to know that I can
live a fulfilling, happy, and successful life on my own without depending on my
partner to get me there. I am not saying that I am an independent woman that
DOESN’T NEED a man but, instead I am an independent woman that is content in being
on her own HOWEVER, having a man would be a wonderful bonus added to my life.
In class my teacher talked about healthy relationships and she
said, “It’s sad how some women only feel happy when they are in a relationship.
Women need to learn how to entertain themselves instead of waiting for a man to
do it for them. It’s not healthy for a woman to seek out their self-worth
through a man”. For example, it’s an issue when a one doesn’t feel pretty
unless she has confirmation from her boyfriend.
I feel like too often women get involved in bad relationships
and stay there because they are stuck in the mindset that they are not good
enough to find a better man, or they feel like they need their partner in order
to feel “complete”. In my opinion, co-dependency is very unhealthy because it
leads to women needing the approval and acceptance of their mate in order to be
happy. This unhealthy habit is what causes women to be in abusive
relationships, relationships where they have to financially depend on their
boyfriend in order to survive, be damaged emotionally, and much more. Fortunately,
there are ways to prevent co-dependency and it all starts with the improvement
of self-esteem.
-Acknowledge your
talents as well as your flaws
-Learn how to produce self-joy
and feelings of completeness by yourself
-Entertain yourself by
going out and doing things you enjoy/have a passion for
-Seek comfort in the
fact the Lord will always love you and find inspirational texts in the bible that
relate to any relationship, self-worth, or etc. issues you may have
-remind yourself that
anyone would be lucky to have you and you don’t NEED a man in order to complete
your life. However, a man would be a nice addition to your life.
It is essential that
you learn how to be happy and love yourself first before you attempt to be in a
relationship. This method will be better for you in the long run because you
will be happier and this type of confidence will attract the right kind of man.
“When you give another person the power to define you, then you
also give them the power to control you.”
―
Leslie Vernick, The
And remember, ladies, Stay C.L.A.S.S.Y ;)
--Colissa Rachael
Huggins
