Just ask!

Hello Darling,

So, one of the hugest problems I used to have was not asking for help when I needed it. It really sounds kind of silly when you think about it, but no really I was stuck in the habit of being too afraid to rely on others, too afraid to put myself in a situation where someone could possibly let me down. 

The more I talk to other ladies the more I see that I was not alone with that problem. 

Although it may be hard, ladies, we need to understand that we can't always do everything by ourselves! Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with being independent--but there is a difference between being independent and stubborn. I used to be soo stubborn and I didn't even realize it. Yeah, people have hurt me in the past, so I taught myself to not rely on anyone to prevent myself from getting hurt again--but when you really think about it that is not the way one should live, constantly holding the fear of being let down! I used  to be fine with helping other people, but when I was struggling I would just take a deep breath and erase the thought of even asking for help out of my mind. 

Sometimes, ladies, we have the problem of allowing things that have hurt us in the past to have a hold on us in the present, and that makes no sense what so ever by the way!

But really, ladies, you have no idea what blessing you may receive if you just step up and ask for the help that you know you need!

So many people are also stuck on doing things without asking for help because they like the sound of it! They like being able to tell people "I did this all on my own." But never forget sweetheart, nothing you do in life is done without any type of help. For example, if your're bragging about the amazing grade you got on your test--that is great and all but don't start thinking you are self made--you wouldn't have even received that grade if you didn't have the opportunity to be in that class where the teacher taught you, or if you didn't have the book that gave you knowledge. It starts before that too. You have the help of your ancestors also! Don't forget we couldn't always attend universities and receive our education! Although people think it was so long ago, just realize that because of someone else we can go to school!

So, don't make the mistake of thinking it's bad to need help or you cannot ask for help when you need it because a true woman knows knows how to admit that she can't always do everything all on her own. Now, that shows true character-- humbleness, confidence, and wisdom.

And remember, ladies, Stay C.L.A.S.S.Y ;)

--Alyssa Louise McCall

Purpose= ?

Hello Darling,

So, I remember for me the question "What is your purpose?" was always exciting yet scary all at the same time. But the more I started going through life the more exciting that question got for me. It became such a beautiful thing to me--God's plan for my life!

What I really began to find out throughout my life is that literally everything that has happened to me or that I went through--the good and the bad--has brought me closer to being the woman who I am today and finding  my purpose.
I really feel like God combined my passions, talents, wisdom, and what brings me joy all into one to create my purpose. 

Really though, it all has taught me the beauty in pursuing what makes you smile rather than chasing someone else's dream or want for your life. Chase what you're passionate about because at the end of the day if you're not passionate about something how do you expect to give it your all--your 100 percent?  

That's not just with our daily actions or careers, but it's also with the organizations/ clubs we join and the titles/ positions we want to receive.

Really, ladies, don't just commit to do something because you feel like it will make someone satisfied or you will receive someone's approval.

There isn't a doubt that sometimes us women have the problem of being "pleasers." As in sometimes we make everyone else's feelings and betterment our top priority. Don't get me wrong, loves, there is nothing wrong with caring about others and making them happy, but always remember that you cannot help others to your full ability if you still need to help yourself or if you do not enjoy the way you are helping them. 

That used to always be something that I struggled with. As I said in the Are you Happy and Healthy? post, you can't take care of others if you don't take care of yourself. How are you going to really help people smile in the long run if you are frowning and hurting on the inside?

So, when you are trying to find out what is your purpose never forget that 99 percent of the time it is your passion.

And Remember, Ladies, Stay C.L.A.S.S.Y ;)

--Alyssa Louise McCall

Coming up next...

Hello Darling,

So this post is going to serve as a recap to what we discussed so far and what you can look forward to soon. You got a definition of what it means to be C.L.A.S.S.Y-- Confident, Lovely, Amazing, Successful, Sophisticated, and You-nique. I talked about the importance of not allowing things to bring you down! It's all about perception, loves. We went through the importance of taking care of our health, and the dangers of perfectionism along with the importance of not letting your past run your life! And of course, last but not least the importance of knowing who you are!

Those few things were some of the most important lessons that I gained throughout my life that I am still gaining more understanding of every single day, trust me on that one! 

So, that you are all prepared Stay C.L.A.S.S.Y is going to also begin sharing how to Stay C.L.A.S.S.Y from the view of a man! I'm not giving away anything else, but just know that if any of you have any additional questions, concerns, or even questions to be answered from Stay C.L.A.S.S.Y's new "Big Brother" feel free to email letsstayclassy@gmail.com! 

Ladies, I pray so far you were able to gain something as well! I look forward to hearing from all of you soon!

And Remember, Ladies, Stay C.L.A.S.S.Y ;)

--Alyssa Louise McCall