Just ask!

Hello Darling,

So, one of the hugest problems I used to have was not asking for help when I needed it. It really sounds kind of silly when you think about it, but no really I was stuck in the habit of being too afraid to rely on others, too afraid to put myself in a situation where someone could possibly let me down. 

The more I talk to other ladies the more I see that I was not alone with that problem. 

Although it may be hard, ladies, we need to understand that we can't always do everything by ourselves! Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with being independent--but there is a difference between being independent and stubborn. I used to be soo stubborn and I didn't even realize it. Yeah, people have hurt me in the past, so I taught myself to not rely on anyone to prevent myself from getting hurt again--but when you really think about it that is not the way one should live, constantly holding the fear of being let down! I used  to be fine with helping other people, but when I was struggling I would just take a deep breath and erase the thought of even asking for help out of my mind. 

Sometimes, ladies, we have the problem of allowing things that have hurt us in the past to have a hold on us in the present, and that makes no sense what so ever by the way!

But really, ladies, you have no idea what blessing you may receive if you just step up and ask for the help that you know you need!

So many people are also stuck on doing things without asking for help because they like the sound of it! They like being able to tell people "I did this all on my own." But never forget sweetheart, nothing you do in life is done without any type of help. For example, if your're bragging about the amazing grade you got on your test--that is great and all but don't start thinking you are self made--you wouldn't have even received that grade if you didn't have the opportunity to be in that class where the teacher taught you, or if you didn't have the book that gave you knowledge. It starts before that too. You have the help of your ancestors also! Don't forget we couldn't always attend universities and receive our education! Although people think it was so long ago, just realize that because of someone else we can go to school!

So, don't make the mistake of thinking it's bad to need help or you cannot ask for help when you need it because a true woman knows knows how to admit that she can't always do everything all on her own. Now, that shows true character-- humbleness, confidence, and wisdom.

And remember, ladies, Stay C.L.A.S.S.Y ;)

--Alyssa Louise McCall