Change is Good

Hello Darling, 

In light of the new semester beginning, it’s an ideal time to talk about change. To some it’s exciting, and to others it is probably the most unwanted thing ever but regardless of how you feel about it...change will happen. Seeing as it’s inevitable, let’s discover the ways of embracing it rather than planning to avoid it. Here are some ways to look at the idea of change a bit differently in hopes of altering your perspective because as we all know; perspective is reality. 

1. No matter how nicely we may view it or how good things are going, our life is never perfect.

Don’t look at this in its negative connotation but rather as an opportunity that change can be for the better. In some cases we feel like change will ruin everything we’ve worked for or mess up our plans, but in fact change could be the very thing that sets us up for something greater. Say everything’s going well for you but you get fired from your job or internship, nine times out of ten we will view this change as “bad.” However, it may be this very event that set you up to provide you with the availability to receive your dream job.

2. As long as you’re still alive, nothing is final.

This is similar to the situation described above, but change is not a one-time thing; it is constant. In the case that the change you experience in your life is not agreeable, remember that your circumstances are due to change again. So what if you don’t get the job or the boy you want, something new will always come along. Each day is legitimately another chance to change something about your reality no matter how large or small. So if you don’t like the change you’re experiencing, then I encourage you to simply change it.

3. Take advantage of the people in your life who keep you grounded and work on maintaining those relationships.

Change will occur on its own whether you intend for it to be there or not, but this isn’t to present the idea that you have no control over the things in your life, because you actually do. No matter how large or small your circle may be, you need a few people who will serve to help you stay grounded. Of course they will experience change too but there is only one thing about them that you need to stay constant, and that is merely their willingness to be there for you. For those needing a more detailed definition of “being there,” I am referring to the willingness of an individual to help you grow, encourage you, provide a few laughs, and remind you that everything will be okay. These friendships aren’t as common, but for the ones you do have cherish them and take full advantage of them.

Overall, there are two things I hope each reader can get from this. One is to understand that change is and will always be constant; two is that you should embrace the elements of consistency in your life...including change. I challenge each of you to welcome change into your lives and use each experience to grow mentally, spiritually, emotionally and physically, when applicable.

And remember, ladies, Stay C.L.A.S.S.Y ;)

--Jelicia Diggs