The past is...

Hello Darling,

Okay, so one of the hugest mistakes that I have ever made in my life was allowing my past to have a hold on me. Ladies, please if you ever take anything from this blog, understand the importance of leaving the past in the past.

First off, Ladies, your past does not in any way what-so-ever define who you are. Your past is a book of lessons that you can use to grow from, learn from, and move forward from. 

I started at a young age in allowing my past to control me, and ladies, trust me that did nothing but make me more and more depressed. After a while of doing this I realized that you cannot change your past but you certainly can control your present actions!

Why allow something that you cannot control or change to bring you down? It actually sounds kind of crazy when you really think about it.
For an example, I used to allow the fact that my parents weren't together and I did not have a father-figure in my household to bring me down. Yeah, it did suck not going to the father-daughter dances, not being able to go home to a "daddy" like the average kid in my school, but that was a situation that was out of my control--so why stress over it?

Another thing we need to realize, Ladies is that perfectionism is not really a positive thing. In a world, where there is no such thing as "perfect" why get upset at yourself for not reaching "perfection." This was one of the struggles that I dealt with-- if I did not get the "perfect" grade on a test or paper, if I was not the "perfect" weight or body shape, if I did not do all of my work "perfectly," if I did not have the "perfect" hair, "perfect" this, and "perfect" that. Honestly, pause and think about that. First of all, the Merriam Webster Dictionary says "perfect" is as good as it is possible to be. I was going through my life thinking it was not okay to mess up or make a mistake. I finally found out that it is impossible to never mess up!

I started viewing my "mistakes" as lessons instead of faults because Ladies, at the end of the day, no one is free of ever messing up or making a "mistake." Again, we just need to grow and learn from our mistakes. 

I'm able to look back now and say, “I know not to do this because I did that."

The more we start viewing our past as lessons the better off we will be. Trust me I am speaking from experience! So, the past is not our controller it is our book of lessons. 

And remember, ladies, Stay C.L.A.S.S.Y ;)

--Alyssa Louise McCall